It’s a touchy subject—regaining some sense of intimacy after the birth of a baby. Or for some women, just being pregnant is enough to knock the cycle off track. Usually, surging pregnancy hormones create a increase in sexual desire during the second trimester, but that fades as your belly grows as big as a house. For some couples, men are afraid to be intimate because they fear they will hurt the baby, or are turned off by mom’s appearance. These are all normal fears for many couples. So once baby arrives, and those precious few weeks of pelvic rest have passed (and yes—you need to rest your body after delivery—no sex for 4 to 6 weeks girls!) What’s keeping you from diving into the sheets for anything besides a few hours of coma-like sleep? Plenty. Continue reading “4 Intimacy Struggles After Child Birth”
August is the third month of summer, and like July, it originally bore a different name before being renamed for one of the great Roman emperors, Augustus. Augustus had a number of military triumphs in the month of August. It was the month that he expanded the empire by conquering Egypt. Babies born this month have some interesting facts associated with their birth month.
August is celebrated as a harvest month in the pagan festival of Lughnasadh. It is also International Beer Day (not great for your baby—but fun when he or she grows up!), Independence Day in several countries, and also a month marking many important events which ended World War II. The middle week of August is the high point of the Perseid meteor shower, a beautiful event which lights up the night skies with falling stars.
The birth flowers for August are the gladiolus and the poppy, and the birthstones for this month are the peridot and the onyx. The gladiolus represents strength of character and takes its name from the Latin word for sword—another August connection to ancient Rome and martial power. Poppies bear a more ominous interpretation of sleep and death—but also of resurrection. They remind us that all things change, and that the coming months will bring autumn and winter, but that spring will come again. Your new son or daughter will go through ups and downs, as every growing child does.
Peridot relates to health and wealth and allows the user to fend off negative emotions by enabling a deeper understanding of relationships. In traditional remedies it has been used to cleanse the heart and open the heart chakra. Onyx is a grounding stone which centers and calms the mind, reducing emotional energy. It promotes reticence and self control.
Babies born in August are either Leos or Virgos. If you are a Leo, you are a fire sign and a natural leader who is generous to others and wants to provide and to lead. You have the capacity to help others, especially if they are willing to follow your lead. You may struggle with anger should others seem unappreciative of your efforts, and you will need to carefully check that trait if you are to lead others successfully. You probably will do best in relationships and workplaces where you are allowed to make most of the decisions. Famous Leos include Bill Clinton (August 19) and Jacqueline Kennedy (July 28).
If you are a Virgo, you are a mutable earth sign ruled by Mercury. Virgos tend to be reliable hard workers who are committed to their tasks. Virgos excel to meet the highest mark in work and in relationships, but can be overly critical of others. Virgos favor constancy and stability, so if your baby is a Virgo, make sure you provide a stable home for him or her to grow up in. Famous Virgos have included Mother Teresa (August 27) and Michael Jackson (August 29).
August is a month associated with change, growth, and accomplishment. If your child is born in this month, he or she may grow to change the world and others.
Are all these third trimester prenatal tests necessary? It’s the common thought that runs through the minds of moms and dads-to-be everywhere. Most commonly swamped with screenings and blood work during your first trimester, you are long past the majority of those difficult decisions by your last couple of months. None the less, knowledge is power, and understand why you and your baby need these screenings can help you make more informed decisions about both yours, and your baby’s care.