It’s perhaps one of the greatest questions every mom has–how will I know when I am in labor? When I was carrying my first child, I walked around for three weeks at 5 cm dilated, 80% effaced with a bulging bag of waters. If you don’t speak labor and delivery, that means I was facing every day with over half of my labor process already completed. Without a single contraction. Continue reading “How Do You Know When You’re in Labor?”
If you haven’t found yourself to be absolutely riveted to your seat by all the lovely details offered in the first post, then please, pull out some popcorn and get comfy for part two–its guaranteed to be a show stopper!
Honestly, I’m not trying to insult your intelligence. I just know that I see moms day in and day out that you might assume know everything, but it turns out they don’t. Especially when they leave a diaper on for twelve hours without changing it and then look at you like you’re crazy when you ask how many wet or dirty diapers they’ve changed…”aren’t you doing that?” They ask. And when I, (their nurse) inform them, that no, as long as the baby is in their room, the parents do the greatest part of the care, they just don’t know what to say. It happens almost every day.
Seems like an obvious task–changing a diaper. But for many, it’s just one of several key baby care basics that get skipped. So, we’ve taken a look at circumcisions and the necessity for great umbilical cord care. Now, let’s think about some more obvious but neglected issues.
Newborns should sleep on their backs or sides. I know. I know. When we were born, our mothers put us on our bellies to keep us from choking. But, that was then and this is now and while babies are placed on their backs today, we don’t see the number of choking problems that you might expect. The risk of belly sleeping is more than just a choking issue, its a breathing one. We still now very little about what causes Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), but tummy sleeping has been linked to a higher rate of occurrence and that rules out this position for safety reasons.
Babies should also be placed in cribs or bassinets with firm, flat mattresses, free from soft blankets, and fuzzy animals. Sometimes, I am even anti-bumper pad for the same issue. Babies may smother in soft surfaces, so keep your baby on their back or side. If you would like to position your baby on his or her side, you may use a sleep positioner (one of those padded “devices” you can pick up at any baby care store) or just roll two blankets and tuck one behind and one in front of baby for sleeping.
During the first weeks of life, your baby only needs a head-to-toe bath about every other day. Sponge off any dirty areas like the face, hands and bottom every day, and don’t forget to clean the cord with alcohol. NO, NO, NO tub bath or water soaked cords until it falls off and heals completely.
Remember to bathe your baby in an area free from cold drafts and only expose the part you want to wash. Don’t leave your baby unattended near water, and don’t do baths on high surfaces where baby may roll off or be dropped. Make sure you have everything within reach that you will need. Use the floor until you get a good handle on what you’re doing.
If you aren’t sure about the water temperature, test it on the inside of your wrist, or pick up a temperature tester in the baby department. Turn down the temperature on your water heater to prevent scalding as well. Anyway, clean the exposed body part, and then dry and cover up again. Start with the eyes and face. (I mean, logically, who washes their backside before their face? Let’s not go there…) Then work your way down the body saving the diaper area for last. Wash hair after the rest of the body is finished by wrapping your baby in a blanket and gently washing the hair under warm running water. See? Its easier to manage a crying, wet, slippery baby than you thought.
There’s a lot more to cover, but we’ll work up to that. For now, you have the most obvious and important tasks mastered, I know it!
Its funny–I see so many women who despite having other children, have forgotten the ins and outs of basic infant care. In some cases, its been years between babies. In other cases, I think “momnesia” has set in. (Do you know what that is? Its the endless supply of forgetfulness most new moms have for at least a year after their first child is born. Never seemed to go away for me though…) Anyway, regardless of the cause, a lot of moms are unsure when it comes to how to properly clean an umbilical cord, care for a circumcision, or even give a bath. Continue reading “Baby Basics: The fundamentals of newborn care”
I don’t think you will disagree with me when I say that there is a lot of pressure to breast feed. Many women long to nurse, while others just don’t feel the same way. Not for any particular reason, except that they just don’t feel that breast feeding is for them. That said, I don’t know if you have decided to breast or bottle feed your new addition, but I’m sure you have given it some thought by now. If you haven’t here are some facts about both breast and bottle feeding to help you decide. Continue reading “Breast or Bottle? Making the best decision for you”
As the weeks drew closer to the birth of my second child , I found my anticipation of his arrival replaced with something else–I felt afraid. Not for the birth, but something entirely different. I found myself grieving the loss of the one-on-one relationship I had with my first child, and worrying about how different things would be when the baby arrived. Would I still have time to read to her?…What would I do when she wanted attention?… Would she think she wasn’t important anymore? …of course, those fears were easy to remedy by balancing my time and helping her feel as though she was a key part of the new baby’s life. But handling the birth of a new baby can be a serious challenge for some older siblings. Being a big brother or big sister may not interest them–and while some older kids take the task on full-force, others will require more hand-holding and the watchful eye of care givers to make sure everything goes smoothly. Continue reading “Tips for Helping Siblings Cope when the New Baby Comes”